Having recently finished work on How to Think Like Socrates, I’m delighted to announce that, in addition to the
and other existing projects, I’ll be focusing on what I believe to be the most important question facing our society today: the problem of anger.I was a cognitive-behavioural psychotherapist, specializing in treating anxiety disorders, but over the years I have increasingly spent more time writing books about Stoic philosophy. (How to Think Like Socrates is my ninth book.) For many years, I’ve been waiting for an opportunity to focus on a specific psychological and social problem, to which Stoic philosophy can be applied. I think it’s often a good idea to return to your roots but approach things from a new perspective.
We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time. – T. S. Eliot, Four Quartets
While I feel that writing in general terms about Stoic philosophy and self-improvement can benefit many people, based on my experience, more tangible benefits can be achieved by targeting a more specific problem. I’ve chosen to look at how Stoicism can help us overcome our own anger, and deal with the anger of others.
In my opinion, anger represents one of the great psychological epidemics of our time, and its impact on our personal lives, our relationships, and society in general, has been vastly underestimated. Anger can destroy friendships, end marriages, alienate children from parents, in extreme cases it can lead to acts of aggression, and even suicide and murder. Anger can become the catalyst for individuals to commit crimes, for outraged mobs to engage in wanton violence, and in some cases it may even lead to warfare and atrocities such as genocide.
Anger can seem like a more serious problem than other unhealthy emotions because of the risk that violence poses to other individuals and society in general. However, it also presents a special problem because angry people tend to avoid trying to help themselves, or seeking help from others. Psychotherapists often talk about three broad categories of unhealthy emotion: anger, fear, and sadness. Individuals who are anxious (fear) or depressed (sad) tend to blame themselves, turn their attention inwards, and, in many cases, that can motivate them to explore self-help or seek therapy. Angry people are different because they are much more likely to blame others, and turn their attention outward.
For that reason, we seldom see individuals in therapy whose main presenting problem is anger. (Of course, we do see clients with issues like depression or PTSD, where anger is a secondary aspect.) For this, and other reasons, the problem of anger has been relatively neglected not only by therapists but by the self-help sector in general. Stoics, such as Epictetus, were clear that the tendency of angry people to blame others, places them in the worst possible position in relation to their own moral and psychological self-improvement.
When then we are hindered or disturbed or grieved, let us never blame others, but ourselves, that is, our opinions. It is the act of an uneducated man to blame others for his own misfortune; it is the act of one who has begun to be instructed [in Stoic philosophy], to lay the blame on himself; and of one whose education is completed, neither to blame another, nor himself. — Epictetus, Enchiridion, 5
Since the time of Socrates, nevertheless, self-improvement “experts” have preyed on the vulnerabilities of young men in particular by actually fueling their anger and outrage, and actively encouraging them to blame others for their problems. This problem is especially pronounced today on social media, in the “manosphere”, where a toxic combination of aggressive political rhetoric and pseudoscientific self-improvement advice has flourished.
There are, however, many important works, and remarkable pieces of research on anger. We have excellent cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) protocols for anger. It’s my belief, though, based on my experience training other psychotherapists, that we could significantly improve our approach to tackling anger by combining the best available psychological research with ideas from classical philosophy. We have, of course, an entire book by Seneca on the Stoic psychotherapy of anger, called On Anger, which survives today. Anger is also one of the main themes of the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius, and it is likewise addressed in other important classical texts, such as Plutarch’s On the Control of Anger.
Yet the other passions, even at their height, do in some sort yield and admit reason, when it comes from without to the rescue, into the soul; but temper… shuts out sense completely and locks it out.. — Plutarch
The Stoic position on anger was traditionally contrasted with that of Aristotle and his followers. The Aristotelians believed that moderate anger could be justified and healthy. The Stoics adopted a more radical position, arguing that when anger is understood more in terms of its effect on cognition, or thinking, it’s harder to see how it could ever be truly healthy. Anger, the Stoics claimed, typically conceals a desire for revenge, and the belief that the other person has acted unjustly and therefore deserves to be punished. This reasoning, however, can lead us to underestimate the harm caused, both to ourselves and others, by attempting to “teach this guy a lesson!” by inflicting very severe punishment. As Marcus Aurelius, and other Stoics, put it: our anger often does more harm to us than to those with whom we’re angry.
The Stoic position might appear radical at first but it actually makes the process of therapy and self-improvement much simpler and, I believe, has the potential to make it more effective. Every angry person believes that their anger is righteous and justified, and the more angry they are the more they are convinced they are in the right and everyone else is wrong. So it can be extremely difficult for them to differentiate between healthy and unhealthy anger in practice. The Stoics approach simplifies this by encouraging us to challenge all forms of anger, and look for a more rational, moderate, and healthy alternative. In addition, the Stoics suggest many therapeutic techniques and concepts, which, it seems to me, have the potential to augment existing CBT protocols for anger management.
I’ve actually been working on the problem of anger for many years, to some extent since I first became interested in Stoicism, and began training in psychotherapy, around 25 years ago now. Below you can see a TEDx video that I recorded three years ago, in which I provide a very concise outline of the Stoic approach to anger.
Writing
I’ll be writing more articles about the philosophy and psychology of anger, in addition to my usual output on Stoicism and related topics. I’m working on a proposal for a new book, which will be different from the articles you see me writing, although they’ll be linked to the research I’m currently doing.
Research
I’m looking at the possibility of working with a team of psychologists to carry out some original research on the problem of anger, drawing on elements of CBT and Stoicism, to inform a new approach. I’ll keep you posted about this, but please feel free to get in touch with me if you’re interested in being involved.
Coaching
I published two new books this year. Because I was so busy writing, I had to temporarily suspend my CBT-based coaching practice but I have now resumed doing remote sessions via video call. I’ll be focusing on issues related to anger, as that’s now my main area of research, although in the past I was an anxiety specialist. I’ve worked in many different environments, helping people with different psychological problems, although now I typically offer coaching for everyday problems and mild to moderate (subclinical) emotions and habits. Please feel free to get in touch if you’re interested in coaching sessions.
How You can Help
Please feel free to comment on this post. Share your experiences with anger (your own or that of others), strategies you’ve found helpful in the past, advice you’d offer others, and any questions you might have about the topic. I’d love to know about the biggest challenges you’ve faced with anger, and what you might hope to learn from a book like the one I’m going to be working on.
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Regards,
Donald Robertson
Donald- so happy to hear of this new project for you… and looking forward to your articles, and hopefully a book! As I live in Minneapolis, I recall the shock and sadness of watching our beautiful city burn during the Floyd riots… and wishing that there were other ways to resolve this social anger.. (I also have a fantasy that our president would do a national power point lecture on how to cope with anger… )…anyway, good luck with your project, and godspeed!
Wouldn't it be great to move beyond every type of anger? Righteous anger, speaking for myself, isn't so righteous.